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5. Embracing Your Inner Sexy As A Midlife Woman

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Jules and Michelle are diving into a spicy, no-BS conversation about what it really means to feel sexy in midlife. From dancing in your kitchen to rediscovering lingerie, they break down myths around aging, sensuality, and confidence—with humor, honesty, and real-life stories that will make you laugh and nod along. Whether you’re feeling disconnected or totally in your glow-up era, this episode is here to remind you: desire doesn’t expire.


What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

  • Why society’s message about “aging out of sexy” is a lie—and how to rewrite it
  • The surprising confidence boost that comes from lingerie, lipstick, and dancing like nobody’s watching
  • How midlife sexiness is more about presence, energy, and self-connection than appearance
  • Real talk about body image, menopause, burnout, and barriers that dim your inner spark
  • Tips for reconnecting with your body, embracing sensuality, and doing something rebellious today
  • A powerful reminder: Your sexiness isn’t behind you—it evolves with you
Speaker 1:

Hey all you midlife spicy women out there. It's Jules and Michelle here, two spicy midlife women from the Emerald City, seattle, washington, sharing our real life stories and having no BS conversations with all of you midlife women.

Speaker 2:

Redefine your relationships, ditch those toxic cycles and reclaim your power, one episode at a time. So let's get into this.

Speaker 1:

Yes, I'm really excited about this juicy episode we have coming up. This one is on embracing your inner, sexy as a midlife woman. So this episode I'm really excited about is super juicy. It's embracing your inner, sexy as a midlife woman, and I don't know what that's all going to consist of all the outdated myths, right.

Speaker 2:

Because I think there's a lot of stereotypical things when it comes to age and sex appeal, right, and I'm excited because we're gonna, let's just like, get into this when you're in your midlife, it doesn't mean you're at the end of sexy at all. Really, I think it's kind of a beginning to you.

Speaker 1:

I think, just looking at it from a completely different perspective, we're actually just identifying that you have those sexy traits within you. And I'm kind of chuckling a little bit about this because I think I told you my oldest child which we haven't gotten into all of you with all of you listeners, about our kids yet or anything like that, but we each have them and my oldest is hilarious and he calls me up and he was like hey, mom, I saw the new podcast stuff. It looks really good, but and I just don't know if I'm gonna be able to listen to you talking about sex and I started laughing cause I'm like that's not all we're talking about. I had to kind of explain to him and he goes. I was kind of wondering I about I had to kind of explain to him and he goes. I was kind of wondering. I kept coming back, going. There's got. I'm really intrigued by what they're going to be talking about. He just didn't want to hear me talking about my sex life, which I totally understand. So you know anyway.

Speaker 2:

Honestly, I think that midlife for me anyways and I think most women don't realize it but looking back, we're able. We're at an age now where we can look back, that good old hindsight being 2020. Really, midlife, you're about that 40-year-old range. It can be a new, powerful version of all of those things, whether you're feeling disconnected or you're in like full bloom right With sex appeal and all of that stuff. If you're feeling disconnected, we're going to talk about some ways that you can reconnect that, regardless of where you're at in midlife, and we're talking about that sexual, sensual spark.

Speaker 1:

It's not always about sex. It's really about your sensualness, the essence of a woman. The essence of who you are is all directly related to that in some capacity. So I feel like you were mentioning something about the being 40. And I think back on being 40, I didn't feel sexy at all when I was 40. Neither did I. I felt like a big frumpy girl who was just really just trying to get through the day.

Speaker 2:

And.

Speaker 1:

I remember I was like not exercise, I wasn't doing anything really to take care of myself, I wasn't sleeping, I wasn't doing a lot of things, like we talk about now, that I are really important to me. They were important to me then, but there were other things that took precedent and I was not able to really manage all of it at the same time. So the things that came about in regard to my health, in regard to, you know, just taking care of me, really kind of went by the wayside, and so we're hoping that we can establish with all of you that's really not necessary. The other thing, too, michelle and I were talking about is that we didn't really have anybody talking to us about this stuff. There were not podcasts. You know, even 10 years ago you didn't really see a lot of these podcasts.

Speaker 1:

But women talking about this topic with other women who are around the same age or in the same place in their life. We just didn't have it. So I just think it's super cool that we're able to really convey some of these ideas, you know, and these thoughts to our audience, all of you out there, and hopefully be able to give you some insight on what you can do. You'll step a little lighter, You'll stand a little taller and embrace the things that really are going to be what makes life super worthwhile.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

So the first myth that we were kind of talking about before was the myth of aging out, of sexy Aging out, yeah. So when you think of that term, what does that mean to you?

Speaker 2:

I mean, it kind of sounds like maybe sexy has an expiration date or something Right, right.

Speaker 1:

Well, do you think society kind of tells us that without saying that really?

Speaker 2:

I think for us, yes, it did and I think in some ways it still does. However, I think, having paid attention in recent years, you know, you hear that, you know 40 is the new 20 and 50 is the new 40 and all of that is the new 40 and all of that.

Speaker 2:

So I think it's becoming more and more spoken about so women can be more aware of what that is looking like for them. But definitely there, I think that's bullshit, right? I think that's total bullshit. You don't age out of sexy and I think the older for me and I think the older for me, as I continued on in years, the more confident and sexy I became, 100%, you know. Yet with a lot of things right, we've been talking about a lot of things lately, which we will share with all of you at some point.

Speaker 1:

But I 100% agree and I do think that there's a period of time where, as women and again you guys a lot of these things aren't really discussed like outwardly, you don't hear about them, you just feel them. At least that's how I've noticed it. But when you become a woman in midlife, people just expect you to do things differently. There's a lot of stereotypes that correspond with that. There's a lot of expectations. There's a lot of things that people will judge you on for doing them differently than what they perceive is the way it's supposed to be. So you make the decision on what you're doing. There. There is no aging out, and what Michelle was saying earlier you know about her confidence level and her feeling of sexiness today is very different than it was a couple years ago.

Speaker 2:

20 years ago, 30 years ago or whatever.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and probably will be in another 20 years you know, she's still going to be a sexy mama when she is 80. She will Absolutely. I know, I'm counting on it. You guys saw the way this girl I mean she's hilarious Really is like just really the epitome of spice. And she's not a spice girl. But anyway.

Speaker 2:

Well, I think too, you know it's, when it comes to sexy and embracing, that it's something that you really have to. You have to give yourself a little time and really kind of reflect on that, depending on where you're at, because what sexy was at 20 is not what it is now you know at 40, 50 and continuing on.

Speaker 2:

I think earlier on it was more about size, shape. You know all those standards that society put on you, or that we, you know we take all those in you, or that we allow you know we take all those in. And I think, as you get on and more into midlife, it's all about energy and the confidence, like I was saying before, and the connection that you have within yourself about those things right.

Speaker 1:

I was talking with this person the other day and we were talking about what is appealing. You know, he's a man, a man obviously, he's in his 40s and he I was just asking him it's like so what is it that just kind of I don't say turns you on, but really gets you going when it comes to women around you? And he was like their confidence factory is?

Speaker 1:

huge a woman who is confident and knows herself and can carry herself well. There's nothing sexier than that, yeah, and so that has nothing to do with makeup, it has nothing really to do with your hair. It has nothing to do with that.

Speaker 2:

It's really more about how you your presence you know, well, and what lights you up as a mid middle aged woman, right, what makes you feel magnetic, and you know what is the definition of those things, right? So Really knowing that is what's going to give you the confidence.

Speaker 1:

Right, yeah. And so, going back to this, ladies, it's defining it for yourself, because it's going to be different for you than it is going to be for your mom or for your sister, or for your best friend. Everybody looks at these things differently, and how you choose to show up for yourself in that regard is really the most important thing. So defining that for yourself is a key thing to do, absolutely, yeah. So what would you call your inner sexy?

Speaker 2:

I think some of the things we already pointed out. But inner sexy for me is more about how you're feeling about it, right? The ownership of vitality and being bold, and the difference between being sexy for other people and being sexy for yourself, right?

Speaker 1:

so when you think, about that like okay, let's just you.

Speaker 1:

Obviously you're in a relationship, so let's talk about that for a second it's like how you feel about yourself and what you do to prepare for when you are with your guys. He all of you that don't know michelle, her sweetheart, does not live. She's got kind of the perfect scenario for a midlife he's hot as hell, but he lives in the midwest and she sees him like every month now, it seems, and they've been together for like nine years and so it every day is a vacation.

Speaker 1:

Every day is a holiday which is going to be really interesting when you guys are in the same place for a long period of time, but it's like preparing to be in his, you know, in his aura or his presence or whatever is very different than what you do on a day to day, isn't it Sure?

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

She's doing her making sure her legs are shaved. She's doing her making sure her legs are shaved. She's making sure everything else is like nicely coiffed.

Speaker 2:

She's got everything going Her nails are done and I, yeah, I mean, and when I do those things, but you know, the regular.

Speaker 1:

But that's not. Yeah, I mean, you do a lot of that stuff anyway.

Speaker 2:

But it's like double triple checking, yeah, making sure, yeah, we're ticking those boxes.

Speaker 1:

It would be more for people that are married or in long-term relationship, like that, you know, because that's when it gets a little tough keeping things kind of sassy. Yeah, or it can, I can say because people get into the mundane you know stereotypical mundane day-to-day routines.

Speaker 1:

Anyway, I'm digressing a little bit but your inner sexy is basically you know what you define for yourself, like Michelle was saying, and I think one way to determine you know, especially if you're trying to figure yourself out and you've never really had the conversations with yourself about what your sensuality is, what your sexiness is. It could just be even you know something so simple as dancing which you know we love to do.

Speaker 1:

Oh yeah, I love to dance, you know, movement of any kind, I think really helps. And, like we were talking about in one of the other episodes I was telling you how I was I've been so intrigued by this Salsa dancing or something right? Well, it's kind of like salsa, but it's West Coast, it's called West Coast Swing and whenever I would swing, dancing Well when I think of that, I think of ladies in petticoats and shit like that.

Speaker 2:

You know, that's not what this is at all.

Speaker 1:

It can be to like any music, it's very sensual. Dancing, yeah, and I'm like, oh my God, I am so intrigued by that. Because it's not like you have to be like in love with your partner or you have to be. It's not like. It's not like that You're dancing with people you don't even know. Yeah, from what I can see, but it in you can't really be inhibited with how you are expressing yourself through your movement from what?

Speaker 1:

I'm noticing. So I think something like that would be amazing to do to really help discover yourself.

Speaker 2:

I myself am going to try to find an avenue to do that to find that just dance all the time, like in, like, do you dance in front of the mirror?

Speaker 1:

I've done that before. I was just dancing in the kitchen yesterday.

Speaker 2:

I do that too, Because I love that movement and I think how you can feel with that and just being free and allowing yourself that move to the music is really soul fulfilling. I think we don't really allow ourselves to do a lot of that stuff yeah, it's like that, saying dance like nobody's watching, right? Yeah, I mean, and who gives?

Speaker 1:

a shit, really. Yeah, I was thinking about that last night because I was in the kitchen and I was like doing the dishes and stuff and I'm and you know there's a window that's in the laundry room that goes outside, and so michelle was out in her hot tent. She's got this like sauna thing sweat Sweat tent. Sweat tent and I'm thinking that girl is going to come walking in and see me jamming out here. I would love it, ed Sheeran probably come in and join me.

Speaker 2:

How could you jam out to Ed Sheeran? Can we just talk about that for a second? Well, there's only a couple specific songs.

Speaker 1:

I do love me some Ed Sheeran Just saying no-transcript got kids and it's like you're like where would I do something like that? Do it in the shower, yeah.

Speaker 2:

Do you got your speaker there in the bathroom? Listen to your tunes while you're taking a shower and do it there. Baby, you can do some other things too to reconnect with your body.

Speaker 1:

Just saying it has to be a waterproof spicy toy More on that later, because we have some options for you, anyway but yeah, so reconnecting with your body, so whether that's through dance, whether that's through touch, whether it's through any of those kinds of things, but giving yourself permission to do that and not feeling like, oh my God, that's so weird.

Speaker 2:

That's just feels so uncomfortable, and it probably does. If you're kind of not comfortable with it, here's the thing. So let's talk for a minute about some of the things that, come, let me say, inhibit us right From doing some of those things, from feeling sexy. What are some of those barriers, do you think?

Speaker 1:

Oh, my God, let's start with Especially in midlife those barriers. Do you think oh?

Speaker 2:

my god, let's start actually in midlife. The capital m for menopause well, I mean, that encompasses a whole, a plethora slew of things, right, yeah, yeah, oh, between that.

Speaker 1:

Well, we won't have to get into all of that, because but it's, all real, but it's very real and, honestly, having gone through that, I'm still going through. But having gone through it, I had no idea what was happening to me. You know why.

Speaker 1:

I was feeling like I had no libido. Why I was feeling like you know, like I just felt icky all the time. I just felt icky. I felt like I was having. It was just awful and it and, honestly, it's like I probably would have been better suited to go talk to my doctor about it sooner. But really, when I did, all that she did was like give me a patch and so anyway. So menopause is something that I feel like is, I don't know, misunderstood by society, yeah, and there's definitely all of those things that can be barriers to feeling sexy, the hormonal things, the body image things, the you know some of the ways you're feeling in regard to your relationships burnout.

Speaker 2:

I mean, let's get real.

Speaker 1:

I mean, we're so like you get. So, guys, when you come home from work, are you like, so exhausted, Like the last thing you want to do is get nudged in the back with someone's dick, Like no, I want to go to sleep, you know. And then that starts happening and it's like, or you feel gross, or you know, it's like I don't know. You're in a place where you're just like, just leave me alone. I don't want you to touch me. Just leave me alone.

Speaker 2:

But if you're, you know, if you're having a dance party with yourself maybe I'm putting some lingerie on before you know it can spice up some of those things.

Speaker 1:

It so it can spice up some of those things it can, but it does come down to that body image and the level of confidence you have with your body. I mean a lot of you are having babies and your bodies are changing and really it's like we talk about that being beautiful. I look at all my scars. I mean I have three C-sections. It's like I've had all this stuff and it's like those.

Speaker 1:

I call them battle scars you know, whether it's stretch marks or whatever, and it's like they're battle scars. It's like we wouldn't have had those if we didn't have our kids, and it's like I wouldn't trade my kids for anything you know. So those are things that you kind of have to own and it's part of who you are and it's okay.

Speaker 2:

And you know, if you don't like them, get rid of them. But it's like, and that's okay too. No, no, it's like you know the scars. You have to be super intentional, you know, during that time, super intentional about recognizing those things, and I think that you really have to work on going outside of those, just like we were just talking about. When you're reconnecting and being in touch with some of the things that we have been discussing, you might find that it can be a little different. Right, it can be a little different. I think, too, that, unfortunately, there's expectations around us that we we're not placing them on ourselves, right.

Speaker 2:

It's the expectations around us that you know kind of say that midlife women need to tone it down and don't pay any attention to that. It's like whatever you're feeling and how you need to connect with so that you can feel good about yourself. Right, that toning down kind of cracks me up because it is so flipping.

Speaker 1:

True. It's kind of like you know you need to calm down now. You need to be a little bit more guarded. I have heard some of these things from people and I'm looking at them going. Do you know me? I mean honestly. A lot of the things that I have discovered have been after I got divorced. You know there were so many things that I didn't have a clue about before, when I was married.

Speaker 2:

I don't know that it for me when I think about that. I don't know if it's so much that we didn't have a clue about, but there was so many other things that we were focused on.

Speaker 1:

Well, keeping my head above water and trying to get through right yeah.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, so. So that's what. If there's anything you know we can talk about here for women that are going through some of those things is, you know, recognizing where you're at. And even more so because it really I didn't have anybody say you need to pay attention and take care of yourself. Michelle, you need to make time for and some of the things that we've been discussing. Right, and it seems difficult to do, but I wish, I really wish, there would have been somebody to be able to tell me those things.

Speaker 1:

So I think now, when we start moving into these next generations, we are going to be those people for our daughters and, you know, down the line, because we're talking about things more than maybe they were talked about before. One thing I also wanted to kind of bring up in terms of barriers to feeling sexy is really, you know, we've all been kind of well, I shouldn't say all I can say. The vast majority of us in some capacity have been conditioned, you know, in regard to shame or guilt, anything to do with sensuality, like we're whores, we're loose, we're sluts. You know, if we're even curious about things, I know that's how certainly it was when I was younger and even getting into, you know, my young adult years. Yeah, it was all very forbidden, not talked about. Really, you were looked at as loose. You know, if you were having conversations with people, my God, can you imagine what they'd say about me now? Oh, I'm just kidding. Oh, that's funny. Basic conversation we had earlier tonight.

Speaker 2:

Well, and for us, you know, at our age I think we brought a lot of that into. You know, from earlier on we brought that into our married relationship and we continued to have that. I mean, I look at it now it's kind of like baggage right. A little bit and yeah, so I mean the main thing here in regard to that with sensuality is I kind of like this. I saw this recently desire, yeah, doesn't expire right.

Speaker 1:

I think the desire to, or the motivation to express your desires is something that people hold back on. They're always going to be there, but maybe they don't feel comfortable doing it. Yeah, and that can be really at any age. At any age, yeah, and how they're conditioned, I absolutely agree.

Speaker 2:

And you know what, all you midlife women out there, it is okay to want attention, you're allowed to want that and intimacy, and intimacy and the thrill of what comes from those things right and exploration and asking questions and doing things maybe you hadn't done before because you've always wanted to try it.

Speaker 1:

That sort of yeah, what is that saying? Confidence is the new cleavage.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, I love it. I love it. That's a good one.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, so let's talk a little bit about reconnecting with your body. We did a little bit of that before when we were talking a minute ago, but one of the things that I really wanted to mention besides the movement and the dance, michelle had mentioned lingerie, and lingerie is like something that is so personal really and really does kind of exhibit your personality to some degree or whatever it is.

Speaker 1:

You're trying to convey the mood you're in, whatever the situation is that you're in. It could be you know your Hanes, you know body panties or whatever your normal like. If you're going, you know you go to the, if you're just going to the gym or you're going to or something like that, you know, but it's like you're going out or you've got a really hot date or you were doing some really something special with your person and you know, your lingerie may kind of speak to that moment.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, and going out and shopping for that stuff you guys is so fun, and it's I. There are so many really pretty things out there that you need to just look at for yourself. Don't worry about other people. Worry about yourself and what you want to wear and if it makes you feel comfortable, Isn't it?

Speaker 2:

I don't know about you, Jules, but I think for me it's kind of interesting how what you're wearing underneath your clothes can make you feel, and so I mean, there's a tip right there. We were talking about, you know, doing things for yourself that make you feel confident and sexy. If you haven't done that with intention, I am challenging you to try it A matching panties with bra or crotchless panties, depending on the event, depending on what's going on.

Speaker 2:

But yeah, especially if you're trying something that you've never tried before or that you've not worn before, and you put that on and you're liking it, and then you just put your regular clothing on over it. It's interesting, I think, how it can just put a pep in your step for the day. It's so interesting that you say that because today is a great example.

Speaker 1:

It's a beautiful day out. I was going to wear this dress that I just got, michelle, but I could not find the strapless bra to go with it. I really wanted to wear it, but I was like, okay, I need to find that before I can wear it. So I flipped outfits and I put on this really pretty sexy.

Speaker 1:

It's like a I can't remember the name of the brand, it's a Rihanna, whatever her brand is yeah, black, uh bra with a black top that has kind of lacy see-through, and my white jeans, my white denim, like cropped pants with a black Gucci belt and I had my oh my god, I was fire, I was feeling so good.

Speaker 1:

And here's the thing. I went into my office today, yeah, and you're thinking see-through top, really, julie. You went into the office. It wasn't really see-through, but you know what I mean. It was like it had the illusion of being see-through, kind of. Anyway, I go in and I hear this damn girl it's like you look great today.

Speaker 2:

I'm like thank you, you know it, you know it's like inside I'm like I've got my really cute bra and my matching panties. You know, yeah, and if you only knew. If you only knew. But see, that's the fun secret for yourself. That does put that confidence and pep in your step. And take it a step further. Take a picture of your badass self in the full length mirror in your bedroom. Yeah Right, take a picture of your badass self in the full length mirror in your bedroom.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, right, throw that shit up on your story and just I'm telling you it's huge. Yeah, I love, love, love seeing that stuff Like when you put it.

Speaker 1:

I don't do it that often, but it's like Michelle does that when she'll put like a really sweet, you should have seen her last night. She's going on this cruise with her sweetie and they're going to the mediterranean, greek isles or whatever, and she's gotten some hot outfits, these adorable outfits, and so she's trying them on. She brings up one yesterday. I'm like damn, it's like he's not gonna let you go home. She and it's like, but it's things that other people might not be comfortable because yeah wearing and it's like she can pull off anything.

Speaker 1:

I swear that you can pull off anything. It's so awesome to see. I'm like I don't know my belly would show yeah.

Speaker 2:

So there's just anyways things, yeah, yeah, you just got to feel it love it own it you know and walk like it's all yours Because it is girlfriend, I know.

Speaker 1:

And then here's another one, and just the lips. Oh my God, I love a good red lip.

Speaker 2:

See, and I struggle with that, maybe this is something that I need to like. Step out with.

Speaker 1:

Well, it's not a bit, you know what. Okay, so we have a friend who's in the cosmetic industry and has taught us every well, michelle knows too. But all these tricks about how you keep her lipstick on. She wears her lipstick and it always looks perfect. I'm not kidding you. Like four hours later it still looks perfect.

Speaker 2:

I don't know what she does, but yeah.

Speaker 1:

I tried to follow all her steps, did not work. But anyway, the red lipstick, I will wear it on occasion and usually it makes my skin look really kind of not pale but, you know, kind of like more demure looking. You know, yeah, style, yeah, and, and that bright red lip and I'm just like damn, I love that.

Speaker 1:

And then you put on your sunglasses and you're just like riding in the car and you're just like I just feel so good. Yeah, so it's kind of a fun thing to wear. Last christmas I think it was my niece who lives in, she lives in new york she showed and she showed up for christmas and you know she very conservative household came from. You know she dresses conservative. She went to private school a little bit. This girl shows up with a bright red lip. I'm like she is coming from new york.

Speaker 1:

You can tell stepping out she's stepping it out and she looked so good and she was just confident. You know, she looked so confident and so darling and then she probably doesn't wear it every day, but it was like very nice touch for that special occasion.

Speaker 2:

Yeah.

Speaker 1:

So Love it. Anyway, just play with those kinds of things. Play with those kinds of things.

Speaker 2:

Be bold, yeah, you know. Enjoy those sexy midlife moments, because you can make them what you want them to be. You can have them and feel good about them, and you know that that sensuality bit and self-confidence, all of these things are going to help you to. I promise you feel differently if you're not feeling those things. Some of these things that we've talked about will help you to really understand and feel some of that internal intimacy that might be missing.

Speaker 1:

And if you're already kind of there, we're talking about a glow up. Even you know like, do it differently, yeah, do it in a way that you haven't done it before.

Speaker 1:

Maybe, like the lingerie we were talking about, or the lipstick or the heels, like, if you're wearing heels, I mean, some people don't like to wear heels anymore. I love to wear a good pair of heels. You know, they just add a little bit of something to whatever you're doing and it's not like you're wearing them for 10 hours or something. Right, you know, it might be just for an evening out or whatever, but bottom line is just owning whatever it is.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, you know yeah. For sure. So quick fire truce, michelle Well if we're getting down to it, sexy doesn't mean that you're seeking approval right.

Speaker 1:

Right, because some of these lines and, dare I say, their wrinkles, they're sexy too, honestly, I kind of feel like if you don't have any at our age it's weird, right, like if your face is so pristine that you have not one wrinkle you have. I mean, you look like you're. You know the five-year-old skin, that's perfect. It's like that's not necessarily genuine either. These are all part of the journey man.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, that's how I look at it, yeah.

Speaker 1:

But I mean the other, on the flip side of that. It's like if you like your skin that way, then that's okay too. There's no judgment. It's kind of like if you want to use Botox, who cares? If you want to get your eyes done, do your eyes, who cares?

Speaker 1:

But it's like, just own. Whatever it is that you're doing, yeah. Whatever makes you feel alive and desired, yeah. And then your sexiness isn't behind you. I think that's a really important thing to identify. It's going to look different as you get older, but maybe it's in a good way, because you're understanding your body. You understand your preferences, your needs, your desires, and you're not afraid of them. You're not ignoring them or pushing them down or putting them on the back burner or saying I don't have time for that today. You've got to maybe make some time and prioritize those things so you can feel really good about what you're doing and where you're going in midlife.

Speaker 2:

It's all part of the journey, yeah, like it evolves with you. Yeah, as you forge through.

Speaker 1:

So what do we? What are we thinking that we want our folks to do here?

Speaker 2:

You know I want that listener. If you're listening to this, I want you to really think about what makes you feel sexy and what is going to make you feel the societal expectations are that you question, that you want to rebel against. Just do it for today.

Speaker 1:

Okay, so here's one, Do it, Do it. I'm just thinking about okay so having now I don't know how everybody else is, but having kids, little kids, who always busted into my room and everything I always had like t-shirt or tank top and shorts on and go to sleep in those. I didn't ever sleep without clothes and I do that now on occasion, but I'm still worried about it, yeah, and I was so worried about someone's name but it's like crawling into bed next to your person with nothing on.

Speaker 1:

If you haven't done that before, I would highly suggest it. Yeah, yeah, and then get a little spoon action going, and then you know you never know what will happen after that.

Speaker 2:

Yeah, if that's spicy and sexy and rebellious.

Speaker 1:

Yeah.

Speaker 2:

Just do that, just do it.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. So I mean, I think, at the end of the day, we just really want you guys to embrace all of these things and get excited about what's ahead of you or what you can enhance that you're already doing so yeah, the intersexy of a midlife woman desire does not expire.

Speaker 2:

That's right. Remember that. And just wanna make sure before we round this up, jules, let all our listeners know that we are out on the socials. You can find Spicy Midlife Women podcast on Instagram. Follow us, give us a share, like all of those things we're on Instagram, facebook. You can even find us on TikTok and YouTube you so choose to, and you can listen to our podcast on whatever podcast platform is your favorite. You will find Spicy Midlife Women there, yeah and definitely share with your spicy friends.

Speaker 1:

Yeah, because we would love to start getting our community going. Yes, you know we're pretty new on this new journey with the direction that we're going, and we're really excited about just getting women together and kind of embracing, you know, the fun stuff that's ahead of us. So I think, with that in mind, just remember to stay spicy, stay sexy and don't let anybody dim your damn light, you know, because it needs to be shining bright.

Speaker 2:

Keep shining, sister. That's right Until next time. Have a good one, you guys, and stay spicy Bye.