Spicy Midlife Women: Real Talk, Raw Truth, and Bold Moves for Women Over 40
Spicy Midlife Women is the ultimate podcast for women over 40 who are rewriting the rules of midlife, breaking free from relationship drama, and leaving toxic patterns behind.
It’s all about embracing authenticity, building meaningful connections, and living unapologetically through candid conversations, hard-earned wisdom, and raw truth.
Hosted by Jules and Michele, two midlife women with real stories and no-BS advice, the Spicy MidLife Women Podcast will guide you in redefining relationships, breaking free from what's holding you back, and reclaiming your power—one episode at a time!
Prepare to get clear on what you really want in your relationships—whether it’s romance, family, or friendships, let go of past baggage and open yourself up to the possibility of fresh, exciting connections.
You’ll also gain the wisdom and confidence to approach dating and relationships with confidence and zero judgment, and feel empowered to ditch outdated expectations, creating a life that truly feels good on your own terms.
Plus, find a supportive sisterhood along the way—because you don’t have to do this alone!
Spicy Midlife Women: Real Talk, Raw Truth, and Bold Moves for Women Over 40
19. Healing Generational Patterns as a Midlife Woman
Have you ever caught yourself saying or doing something and thought, “Oh my gosh, I sound just like my mom”? In this episode, Jules and Michele get real about the generational patterns we’ve carried into midlife and how we can start to recognize, shift, and heal them.
From family dynamics and unspoken traumas to communication styles, martyrdom, and boundaries, we explore what it looks like to stop repeating cycles that don’t serve us and create a healthier legacy for our kids (and future grandkids).
We’re talking about:
- Why awareness is the first step in breaking toxic cycles
- How midlife triggers from empty nesting to menopause can activate reflection and growth
- Practical ways to set boundaries and stop carrying what isn’t yours
- How to pass down the good while releasing what no longer serves you
This is your reminder that you have the power to rewrite your story and it’s never too late to fix it and ditch it.
👉 Tune in now and join us in redefining what it means to be a wise, wild midlife woman.
Are you ready to take your "spiciness" to the next level?!
Connect with Julee & Michele on Instagram @spicy_midlife_women and send a DM about what resonated most during this episode so they can encourage you with steps forward in your own life.
Hey, hey everybody. Jules and Michelle, here your two spicy midlife women from Seattle Washington about to share all our real life stories and having no BS conversations. Right, julie, that is absolutely correct.
Speaker 2:We are here in the Emerald City and we are here to help all of you midlife women redefine your relationships, ditch those toxic cycles we've created in our lives and reclaim our power, one episode at a time. So let's get into it, michelle. Yeah, yeah, this episode.
Speaker 1:Is going to be interesting. It's interesting.
Speaker 2:You're all going to be like, oh my gosh, I totally understand. And reflective and relatable for sure how we raised our own family and what we do and how we see things today in this day and age. But we definitely see a huge difference, and I would venture I guess everybody else does too. Oh sure, yeah, I guess it depends how you were raised and what kind of relationship you had with your family.
Speaker 1:Yeah, there's going to. I mean, there's a whole array of things you know and it's going to be dependent on your situation, your household, you know how you grew up, obviously. But we're going to, just in generality, somewhat talk about what some of those patterns are, what some of those aha moments might be, and some of the ways to maybe shift or change that journey so it can be different going forward for yourself, if you recognize some of these things and I think there are moments like I don't know, julie, do you ever find yourself saying or doing something?
Speaker 2:And when you're doing it, it's like, oh my gosh, I sound like my mother right now, even little idioms and things that I use that I got from my mom and dad from when I was a kid. You know I have restated and now my kids even say them that sort of thing. But I definitely even tonight I was out with my daughter and you know I said something and she goes oh my God, mom, you are starting to sound like grandma. And she didn't mean it in a positive way at all. I don't know what I was saying or what it was, but I'm just like when I've heard that, I've heard that from my kids a couple of times.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's really like please don't do that, you know, step out of it. So. But there's things that we have in our blood, really Fabric of our being, until you're kind of outside of that lifestyle or, you know, outside of someone else's home, when you're kind of getting into your formative years, you know your 20s, 30s, whatever that you go. Oh my gosh, I don't think that way. Yeah, you know, and that's why you see people that like, for example, live in rural towns in the Midwest and they're just dying to get out and see life.
Speaker 2:I mean they're living in a very structured home, and a structured household they're doing structured chores, they're doing all these things and they're just dying to get out and see the world and see how other people live. And it's like we grew up in a lot of those times, but we didn't necessarily look at it in the same way, because there were, like I said, things that were happening in your family that you just kind of went with. There was elephants in the room with trauma that had taken place between your family members, or like aunts and uncles, things like that. You know where. Maybe they're not talking to each other anymore.
Speaker 1:You don't know what you don't know. Yeah, when you're in the mix of it, right? I mean we talk about what?
Speaker 2:some of the generational patterns are you just mentioned one trauma, and you know, being the youngest of eight kids, that was pretty true.
Speaker 1:Michelle got the end of the bathwater. Is that just gross, or what? Don't throw the baby out with the bathwater.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she was literally the baby with the bathwater after seven kids were in there.
Speaker 1:But we're able to now, as you know that we're in this midlife time frame, you do, you start to recognize some of those things, some of the belief systems that you grew up with some of the habits that were formed, some of the emotional responses, yeah, and how it was handled.
Speaker 1:And I mean, I have recognized at different times where it's very familiar and it's because of you know where it came from and it's your own setting that you grew up in. You bring that with you and when you are able to recognize some of those things, because you see it, and that hindsight is 20-20, if you want to shift and change it, you can right, but I think some of them just are so naturally there, yeah, you don't even realize it's going on. It's kind of crazy.
Speaker 2:So yeah, like emotional responses to things, Like think about people. Maybe some of our listeners grew up in households where there were yellers, you know like maybe their dad was a yeller, or their dad was a yeller their mom was a yeller or something like that.
Speaker 1:So it's like Not the dog old yeller.
Speaker 2:Yeah, but I mean that's what they grew up with.
Speaker 2:So to me that's kind of like they don't really know any different, right, that's trauma. But now that they're adults and they're raising their own children, they see how it made them feel. So perhaps they approach it a lot differently, or like I can think of one time my daughter had told me, you know, we had a household where dad worked at night, mom worked during the day, the parents were not always home at the same time, and she had gone for her first sleepover when I think she was in fifth grade and it was on a Saturday night and the whole family was there and they were playing a game of some kind and she was like she was kind of just overwhelmed with the idea that they were all together, right, which made me super sad, honestly, because it's like that's the kind of family life that you would want to have, but it just wasn't the reality of where we were at that time. But she thought what our home was like was normal, right. You don't know what you don't, right you don't know what you don't.
Speaker 2:You don't know what you don't know, you know crazy, yeah. And now she sees that that truly wasn't probably a normal household, because she's seen other examples of things and we were talking tonight about raising a kid, like when she's gonna have children and stuff like that, and she just really wants to have that stability, that consistency, with her or one of them being there. She knows that she's going to have to work, but I just thought it was so interesting, yeah, because I mean, my oldest said the same thing. It's like they love the fact that I was working and I was, you know, out of the house doing all my stuff, and they're very proud of me out of the house doing all my stuff and they were very proud of me. But at the same time they were kind of casualties.
Speaker 2:Let's just be honest in a lot of ways because of that, because I don't care what anybody says it's like you do have two-parent households in this day and age and it's much better than it was. But the reality is that, as as women, we absorb all of that extra shit, and if you don't absorb it, then it's not going to happen. It's like someone's got to make the doctor's appointment, someone's taking them to their thing, someone's getting them to break.
Speaker 2:so you know what I mean it's like so the mom is the one that typically will handle a lot of that. No shade to dads, because dads typically.
Speaker 1:She said typically I did doesn't mean they do all the time.
Speaker 2:But we have a different nurturing quality where. I think some of this martyrdom that you're talking about comes from because, putting everybody else first and there's nothing left for us. Those are things that we probably saw our mom doing, and so then we just automatically think that's the way we're supposed to do it and there might be a better way. Because a lot of those moms are like the kids are gone and they're like who the hell am I? What am I doing? What is my purpose?
Speaker 1:Yeah, well, and just like I was saying before and in general, all the circumstances are going to be different. Everybody listening, you're going to be able to think of different times and how things were in your household. What you have brought along with you and are now continuing in your own households and I guess that's kind of what we're talking about is some of those generational patterns that need to heal right, and if you think about those times and it makes you feel some kind of way that's not good and you find yourself doing it yourself within your own household. Those are the things that we're talking about and recognizing, especially as a midlife woman, and doing things differently for yourself. Going forward, it's like ending the cycle. Yeah, ending the cycle, yeah.
Speaker 1:Of what's happening? Yeah, it's like ending the cycle. Yeah, ending the cycle.
Speaker 2:Yeah, of what's happening.
Speaker 1:And.
Speaker 2:I've seen you know different people or different women that I know where they've actually recognized that there is a pattern, like, for example, how they communicate, and it is toxic and they recognize it. Heck, I can tell you, within my own family there's this. It's kind of a joke in some respects, but it's really not. It's like this triangular communication. One friend of mine, marybeth, she's talked about this too and she came from a big family, but my family wasn't that big. But it's like where one person talks to the other person and tells that person to talk to the other person and then get their point of.
Speaker 2:It's just this whole like circle of things where people aren't really talking to each other, because they've learned where they can get things accomplished or who they can get things accomplished through.
Speaker 2:And I think generationally you know like I'm speaking like for my mom's generation and stuff it's like they learned how to make things happen in a very different way than we do, because I feel like there was such a perceived lack of when I say power, I don't mean power in a very different way than we do because I feel like there was such a perceived lack of. When I say power, I don't mean power in a bad way, I just perceive lack of being able to take control of things that they needed to take control of. They had to get permission to do that. They were stay-at-home moms. They didn't have money to be able to make changes or do things differently. So a lot of the time it was just being scrappy, you know. Or maybe we're in homes where there was a lot of money but there was like not really a lot of connection. So they kind of did what they wanted to do, and the kids see that too.
Speaker 2:So, like I just mentioned about my own daughter seeing, you know, in my, in her growing up, that the pattern of how her family was my family and the family that she had gone to that one time for an overnight was so, so, so different. And maybe it was better, maybe it wasn't, maybe it was just a really good night for that family and they were putting on a good show. I have no idea they were probably Mormon. No, they were Catholic. Yeah, sounds like a Mormon thing like a Monday night thing or something right yeah, Family night, family night, yeah.
Speaker 1:I think it's interesting, though, when you think of the time frame where a lot of these things kind of activate, right. Right, there's this point of activation, this point of realization, and reckoning if you will, and reckoning if you will, but for midlife, what do you think? Some of the factors are that impact, that activation of these generational patterns.
Speaker 2:So I would say the one thing, speaking from my own experience, basically at this point, and probably for a lot of women out there who are in the same place having your children not be there and be physically responsible for them in the same way, being an empty nester and in my particular case I'm a single empty nester, whereas there's a lot of women who are married and in marriages or have partners, but they're empty nesters so it's a very different experience probably in that way.
Speaker 2:But I would say that was one thing that kind of got me thinking a lot differently, because all of a sudden I wasn't really putting all of their needs completely first anymore. I always put those things just like you know we're talking about the martyrdom earlier. It's like you always put your kids first, right, try to give them whatever because we can handle it, and then there's truly not a lot of stuff left over, and that's where a lot of us end up, you know, in midlife going is this what it's all about? Is this all that's left? And it's like I'm a shell of a person. I've heard that so many times.
Speaker 1:She said a shell of a person, not a Michelle of a person. A shell of a person. A shell of a person Like who are you deep down? I find I still am doing this, though I'm still doing things for my boys. Yeah, I still do that.
Speaker 2:You're good about it, though, because it's like there's been conversations that we have had where I have said well, you know, like did you go talk to them and you're going?
Speaker 1:no that's not my place.
Speaker 2:And I'd be looking at her going.
Speaker 1:God, she's totally right be happening for women in midlife can cause an activation point of some of these things, and recognizing what some of those generational patterns are that have been, maybe that you're carrying on, maybe that you don't want to.
Speaker 2:And if you're actually even looking at it if you're just even looking at it, because you might have your blinders on and not even paying attention it might be one of those things where you just carry on the same patterns, you know, because you don't a know how to do it differently, or b it's easier that way, or it's the path, like I mentioned before, of least resistance right and it's comfortable. And the reality is that none of these things are going to adjust or change or get better if they're not good, unless you make the effort to do them. And of course you make the effort and it's not going to be comfortable.
Speaker 1:Well, I think to just being conscious of what the patterns are is very powerful.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Very powerful just to recognize and be conscious of it and therefore that may start you in a path of some type of action.
Speaker 2:Yeah, you know Well, and it's kind of this realization, you know, like, where there are things that come out of your mouth, like I can think of things that will come out of my mouth to my family not my immediate family, like my sister, my mom, whatever and it would be something they'd never heard from me before or that they've never even knew, that I would have thought about and it surprises them. But it's like I'm not the same person that I was 10, 15 years ago, and not that I didn't have a mind of my own. Really then I think I just didn't know what I didn't know. And now I'm really starting to understand a lot of that and dissect it to a degree, because I want to understand it. I want to understand, you know, how the generations before me operated and there's things that are good about it, but there's definitely things that aren't, and I don't want to continue those patterns and I think we're, you know, kind of in that place in our life where we have that strength and ability to adjust or change things. But we've already, in some respects, raised our kids, so we've already established some of these things with them, and you might even start to see that.
Speaker 2:Another thing that I think is an activation point in midlife is that we are what I would call the sandwich generation. You know, where we have been caring for kids and we have aging parents as well and we're kind of navigating. You know the minutia of that middle section there, trying to figure out what to do, how to do it. So taking a parent who you've really gotten guidance from, who's been kind of the hierarchical presence in your life, and now the roles are shifting and it's weird. It is weird Talking to you like with my mom we have very different relationships than our moms yeah, we do before.
Speaker 2:It's like I have a very interesting relationship with my mom Bless her heart as midlife women, kind of navigating through the middle of all of that, I should say, the minutiae of that middle section, trying to figure out where we fit. Are we finished raising our children? Have we done what we need to do there? And now taking on the responsibility for our aging parents, when we have been the opposite role for them? We have been the child. Now they're kind of becoming that child. In my particular case, it's happening kind of that way Because, I mean, she's much more elderly than some women. Your mom, though, is older than my mom, but her generational patterns and how you interact with her is very different than how I interact with mine. But that's what's so interesting about it.
Speaker 1:Well, that's why I was saying at the beginning different experiences. It's just the different experiences. The experiences my mom had with my dad were probably different than the experiences your mom had with your dad, obviously, right, which trigger different emotions in a different way. So, yeah, how they're experienced and how they're carried on different as well.
Speaker 2:So, anyway, that's something to think about with all of you out there, because you know how you interact with your folks now. Do you have the relationship where you will be that sandwich generation? You'll be watching after your parents. You're still watching after your children. How do you navigate that with? Your siblings, for example, or do you even have your parents around? You might not have to worry about it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it is tricky. We're all taking turns.
Speaker 2:Well, here's the thing too, In the United States it's a very different culture than you see in other countries. They don't have retirement homes. They don't have retirement living per se in other countries, so they think we're very odd.
Speaker 1:Yeah, they have multi-generational homes, which I think is really cool and amazing. Yeah, I think we could stand to do better here in America in regard to that. I think we could stand to do better here in America in regard to that. But what do you think? Some of the things are some of the approaches people can take to help with some of the healing things for these midlife patterns, as you're recognizing in them and maybe are trying to break free from those that you want to break free from.
Speaker 2:That's actually a really good question. I think the huge, huge aha, if you will, would be recognizing them, recognizing what's happening with you, that you are translating into your life. That might be really kind of toxic. And I would say the biggest piece that for me, anyway that it comes to mind, is the communication aspect of things, because I know in your family we talked about this. In my family we just didn't talk about stuff, we didn't talk about sex, we didn't talk about relationships, we didn't talk about any of that stuff. That's very normal though.
Speaker 1:When you think about.
Speaker 2:If you talk to a lot of women out there, they've been in very similar types of households you know, where it was very hierarchical. Kids are seen and not heard A lot of. That's the only way really, if you think about it to kind of break some of those patterns. But you find yourself transitioning and doing them Like I'm totally calling myself out here, but like this whole passive aggressiveness thing.
Speaker 2:It's like my mom. She doesn't realize she's doing it, so passive, aggressive, and it's just the way she's always learned to communicate. It's nothing that she's trying to do or trying to manipulate, it's just the way she is. I have found myself doing the same thing and then go oh shit, this is not good. But the difference now is that I am at that place where I'll recognize something like that and put a stop to it right away or kind of flip it around to where I'm going. Oh, I need to do this differently, so kind of humbling yourself enough to understand that you're only human and there's things you're naturally going to pick up. That might not be great, so that would be one thing I would think of. What about you?
Speaker 1:You know what I think is lovely. It has been seeing some things that my children are doing differently with their kids that is actually quite enjoyable to see. But for healing, I think therapy is excellent and if it's needed, like I said, we're talking about breaking some of the patterns, recognizing them and wanting to break those. So you can do that through reparenting, and that's what I see my kids doing things parenting their children differently than how we parented them and how I was parented. Yeah, I love seeing that.
Speaker 2:yeah, actually, but you see them being adult. I don't have any grandkids, so I haven't really seen that yet, but I've watched it with you and like with your oldest that has just a very thoughtful approach to how you know they're raising their kids.
Speaker 1:Not that you weren't thoughtful, but you were like living in a lot of day-to-day you know trying to keep things you know above water so to speak, and sometimes it's difficult to stand back and watch some of the decisions that your children are making in doing things differently, but I've recognized that it's okay.
Speaker 2:I know those are the conversations that we've had, where I've been like but, michelle, and you're like, no, it's okay.
Speaker 1:It's not my place and that's where the boundaries like we were talking about before, and this is where bring that up, because it's learning how to set those and to adhere to them without feeling guilty or without feeling like you're not doing what you should be so.
Speaker 2:when you say setting boundaries, are you talking about boundaries with, like, the generation before us that has where there's things you've recognized that you want to kind of break patterns of, and so you put those boundaries, that what you're referring to I'm referring to all of it, like there's that, and then there's also setting boundaries with my own kids okay and stepping back and sometimes doing it in a way where it's not even felt as such a boundary.
Speaker 1:I try to do that too with my siblings, with whatever it is, but having that approach like you're talking about, where I just I step back and it's like you know all these things and you want to fix things and you think you should insert yourself and do these things, and it's having the wherewithal to be like, nope, I'm stepping back, I'm not going to do that, I tried that before. It didn't go well. And some of the repercussions sometimes of things that can arise or situations that can come to fruition when you do that and so, through trial and error, when you do that and so through trial and error.
Speaker 2:So how has it felt Like, think of? You don't have to say any circumstances, but I can think of a couple off the top of my head. How have you felt when you see your kids, for example, struggling, or your grandkids Say, you see your grandkids struggling with something that they're trying to navigate or trying to understand, or what have you? It's like, isn't it just so hard to keep your mouth shut, even though that's probably the right thing to do?
Speaker 1:Right, sometimes it is, and sometimes it's the right thing to do. If I feel like something needs to be said, then I say it, but with regard, to it's just so situational. It's very situational and it can be a hard thing to navigate, but you can't fix everything for them all the time. And I realize and I recognize, as I have gone into years in midlife and am continuing on that path I don't need to give my unsolicited opinions and advice all the time, but I make sure that they know that I am here to support them in any way.
Speaker 2:That they need me to be, and that's regardless of whether you'd agree with them or not? Yes, yeah, absolutely I think that's the key, because you hear, you know you do hear about families, or even families when we were growing up, where the parents didn't agree.
Speaker 1:Well, and it was very conditional for me.
Speaker 2:Super conditional.
Speaker 1:My life was very conditional for me, super conditional, yeah, the decisions I made, everything I did was very conditional, and so, therefore, I didn't live authentically.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's a really good way to say it.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and I want my kids to live authentically and even when it's hard sometimes for them to learn things as they move through life, but being there to not judge them and recognize that they need that. Space has been huge for me.
Speaker 2:Well, I think that's huge. That's a big growth thing for you as a woman, as a mother as a grandmother, you know, and as a daughter, frankly, kind of seeing all of those different steps that you've gone through, I think that it's easier to heal those patterns when you have recognized them yourself and are kind of breaking them.
Speaker 2:You know I've talked to a couple of women recently who had patterns of, you know, really terrible relationships, and those terrible relationships carried on because of financial situations and they had to break themselves out of those patterns and they've got little kids that are watching these patterns happen. So how you respond to them is making a difference on how they're going to view the world you know how they're going to view the things around you. So it's recognizing and doing what you can, I think, to break some of those patterns.
Speaker 1:And it doesn't have to be heavy all the time. No, and you can do these things while you're still living life, like if you're still raising kids, if you're dating, if you are running a business, building a career, whatever it is, you can still do some of this work with yourself. In the recognition and how you're navigating things. It's very doable. So I think the recognition is probably my biggest takeaway in diving into this topic. Yeah, so how do you feel?
Speaker 2:about that word legacy, like leaving your legacy behind. It was like how we behave, how we treat I mean, this is generally speaking, obviously, how we treat people around us. What we do is part of our legacy. But it's like when it comes to your family, when it comes to especially my children and I don't, like I said, have grandchildren yet, but that'll be hopefully down the road, that'll happen someday I don't want to take the patterns that I have potentially passed on to them and have them pass on some of those patterns to their kids.
Speaker 2:So I'm trying now to break some of those things. So over the last few years, for example, that whole disconnection with family and having three children, those children all they have is each other.
Speaker 1:When I'm gone, when their dad's gone, they have each other, that's it.
Speaker 2:So if they're not connected, in my mind that would be the biggest travesty no-transcript.
Speaker 1:I mean we've been talking about some of the difficult patterns that you want to break and change, and it can go on the flip side too. It's like one that I recognize that was a good thing that I'm now bringing into my family and spending that family time at least once a month. I think it's wonderful that you do that. But to your point, to getting everybody together, making them, you know, strengthen the family bond, because we're all going every which way and the other and don't spend a lot of time together. So at least you know coming together and continuing to build those relationships.
Speaker 2:My sister and I have been dealing a lot with the sandwich generation. I was talking about where we're dealing a lot with my mom and just a lot of struggles that we're trying to navigate with her and help her, you know, because she's aging and it's really not going well. I mean she's really having a tough time.
Speaker 2:Right you know, because she's aging and it's really not going well. I mean, she's really having a tough time right, and so that's where my sister and I spend a lot of time talking and things like that. And I was chatting with my daughter about this today, actually, and my sister and I are so different. Yeah, we are like polar opposites, right, but this is a commonality that we have, obviously, with our family. We take care of my mom and we take care of our brother, we help our brother and stuff too. And my daughter said, you know, it's like if those things weren't there, would you and Angie be friends? And I was like, yeah, I think we would be friends, but it would be very different Because we have come to that place where we understand and respect that we are very different. And you know, she has a very different way of looking at life. She has a very long-term marriage relationship. That is, he's an acquired taste.
Speaker 2:I love him but, you know he's around and he's been fantastic and I don't have that kind of a life. So, yeah, our lives are very, very different, but I'm glad I have my sister, of course, and I was saying to her yesterday I was like, just hang in there, you know, because there will come a day when we're able to just sit back and have a glass of wine and talk about everything and nothing at all. But we really don't have that time together ever, because really everything that we talk about or deal with right now has to do with navigating my mom and making sure she's okay.
Speaker 1:Circumstances yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah. So I mean, those things can. They can bond you or they can pull you apart, I guess too so.
Speaker 1:I mean, I would say if I could just challenge our listeners to think about some of these, maybe some of the generational patterns that maybe they haven't really thought about. Really take some time to think about if there are those, if you've had those aha moments where, oh my gosh, I sound like my mom or what am I doing that? You know I grew up with this and I didn't like it. Why am I doing it in my own family, whatever it could be? Just think about what one is and see if you're ready to take a look at that and release it and how you might be able to. What some of the things that will go into being able to release that.
Speaker 2:This is kind of putting your money where your mouth is, ladies.
Speaker 1:It truly is.
Speaker 2:And again, this doesn't have to be anything horrible, but it's like really, like Michelle said, if you just take for a moment and think about two things that you know are not healthy, that you grew up with, that you learned along the way and that you have potentially without even realizing it maybe started transitioning to the next generation, think of what those things are and how you can stop those, or how they end with you, how you break the cycle. It could be major, it could be really major, or it could be nothing super major but would make your life a lot more pleasant, or your kids' lives a lot more pleasant, your husband's, your partner's, whatever.
Speaker 1:Some of the littlest things, the minute things. You just don't even realize how big of an impact it can have. Yeah, so just reflect on that and all at the same time, continue to embody the wise, wild midlife women that you are in the process, Because there's so much that we're dealing with at this time in life. You know physically, mentally, emotionally, all of those things.
Speaker 2:And if you say you're not, I'm sorry, I don't know anybody that does not have something going on.
Speaker 1:Yeah, you do have it going on, and if you think you don't, you just haven't acknowledged it yet. You're busy that day. Yeah, you're busy that day. I call that the busy that day thing. Busy all the days.
Speaker 2:You guys, we're not just healing our lineage, we're rewriting this definition of what it means to be a woman in midlife, because now we talk about shit, we get it out there, we try to figure out how to fix it and, you know, we've got a whole community and everything around us to help support us, whether it be our family, whether it be our friends, whatever the case may be. But we have options where I feel like that is not always been the case, you know, in generations past.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we can fix it and then ditch it, fix it and Ditch it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, michelle has to say the ditch it, because I always say dick it.
Speaker 1:She's not very good at that.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not Anyway.
Speaker 1:But one thing we're thankful for is that you have made the time to listen to this podcast.
Speaker 2:That's right.
Speaker 1:We appreciate that. We appreciate the downloads and the community that we have with Spicy Midlife Women, and if you haven't checked us out on the socials yet, please feel free to do so. We have a lot of fun over there on Instagram and on Facebook, so check it out, yep.
Speaker 2:And until next week stay spicy ladies, bye, take care. Bye-bye.